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Episode 119: Through the Waiting and the Wanting

By May 3, 2021January 3rd, 2023Podcast

Today’s guests are some of my favorite people and are no strangers to the call to foster or adopt.  Jamey and Sarah McIntosh are TFI Advocates in Chippewa Valley, WI who felt the pull to this work early in their lives (even before they were married!). They have such a big heart for foster care, adoption, and advocacy. I hope you will be inspired by their journey and the lessons they have picked up along the way, how God has shaped them in the waiting periods, and even how they’ve learned to let go of control.

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Just imagine what we could accomplish together.

We are so excited for what could be accomplished in the next 10 years of helping people support the foster care community!



1. No matter where you are in the process, waiting can be a challenge.

It’s easy to be impatient and want to rush through the paperwork or training process, but there is something to be learned in the waiting. God may have us experience things now to prepare us for the foster care journey.

“In that waiting phase, I learned so much about God. And it’s preparation for something, maybe not even for that child.”

2. Stepping into this messy journey is so worth it.

If you’ve been in the foster care or adoption world for a while, or just been a listener to this podcast for some time, you know this is hard work! Your efforts of providing a safe place for children, navigating trauma, and more are not in vain.

“Trying to bring family to other people is a hard thing, but it is so worth it.”

3. Sometimes what we want might not be the best for the child.

Wow, this is a big one and can be so hard to come to terms with. Sometimes, we may be teetering between our desire to be the family for someone and knowing what’s best may not be us. In the end, we need to be secure in our God who’s in control, and allow our heartbeat to be for every child to end up in the place that is best for them.

“We ultimately want to see them in the best place they can be. If it’s back with their biological parents, if it’s in a different place, whatever that is, that’s what our hope really is.”


We hope this episode has helped you wherever you are on your foster care journey. That’s the goal! If so, will you tell others?

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Meet Our Guest

Jamey & Sarah McIntosh became TFI Advocates in 2017 and established a local ministry in Chippewa Valley, WI. Before they got married, they each had a heart for adoption and knew it was going to be a big part of wherever God took them. They have four children – three biological and one adopted from Ethiopia. Jamey works as a Project Marketing Manager during the day.  Sarah and Jamey work directly with the foster care community, whether that be vulnerable adults, agency workers, foster parents, or foster children.

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