S6E5: The Power of a Surrendered Heart

By March 11, 2019September 9th, 2019Podcast

If you feel that nudge and know God wants you to take the next step, dig in and find out where He wants you to help.

Are you a foster parent, serving and loving kids in your home, but are unable to quiet the nudge in your heart to do more? Today you will hear Wendy Carlton’s journey of quiet prayer to foster care and then foster care advocacy.You will learn ways you are needed to make a difference in the lives of children, too!


1. Pray in the Waiting

When Wendy first felt called to foster care, her husband Ty, was not on board. Instead of nagging and pushing him though, Wendy spent time in prayer. She prayed, “If this is Your will, change his heart.” And God did! 

When God opens our eyes and fills us with the passion to step out in faith, it is difficult to wait and yet waiting is often what happens. Don’t race ahead of Godinstead, stop and pray. Seek His face and pray on behalf of those in your life who might not be ready. 

If you feel that nudge and know God wants you to take the next step, dig in and find out where He wants you to help.

2. Trust God’s Timing

God placed a calling on Wendy’s life to step out of her comfort zone — being the“worker bee” — and into a leadership role. Before stepping out though, Wendy wanted to be sure God was leading her and so again, she went to him in prayer, this time for her pastor. “If this is God, give our pastor the same word that He has given me.” And, again God honored her prayer.

Don’t be afraid to pray specifically and ask God to make His way clear to you. He loves to reveal Himself to you!

3. Watch Him Work

God does amazing things in and through us when we are faithful to give him our yes.” Through camp, kids are able to realizemaybe for the first time in their livesthat they are not alone in their experience as a foster child, and that their lives matter. Camp not only impacts the kids, but the volunteers too. Terry Shandrow, a first-time camp volunteer, said it this way, “Once you see the abuse and hear the stories, you can’t unsee it or unhear it.” 

Wendy’s “yes” led to the opportunity for Terry to say “yes” as well, and ultimately, for children to be seen and heard.  There is a place for all of us to make a difference in the lives of others. What is your “yes?” 


Wendy Carlton’s Previous Podcast Interview
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Meet Our Guest

Wendy and her husband are a foster family who has been blessed to meet and love eight great kids in the past three years. They were doubly blessed to adopt their first foster child and make him their forever son. God has radically changed their family and lives in ways never imagined – they were nearly done raising children, with no plans to adopt – when He blessed them with their toddler! Wendy and her husband have two sons, two daughters, a son-in-law, and 4 fur babies.

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